Breaking up sucks, but it sucks a lot more if you mindlessly do something shitty that completely ruins your relationship — without even knowing the extent of the damage you’re causing. For instance, a recent survey revealed that the biggest deal breakers for a woman when you bring her back to your place is having a smelly home, a grimy bathroom, and dingy sheets. So, if she walks through your front door and immediately gets slapped in the face by the dating russian woman reddit fumes of your piss-ridden toilet and decaying chicken lo mein, she’s probably going to leave and never come back. But just as your home can make women retreat in haste and end a budding relationship, so can certain behaviors, which thousands of women described in full detail in a Reddit thread titled: Women of Reddit, what are red flags when it comes to dating men?

Since nobody has time to read thousands of Reddit comments, I handpicked 15 of the biggest red flags of dating, so that you can do your best to avoid doing them. I was told that when we started dating, I was to install a GPS program onto my cell so he’d know where I was at all times. He flipped when I told him ‘nope,’ argued that his last girlfriend did it and that’s how he caught her cheating so it was a ‘sign of trust. Got TF out of there immediately.

Trying to isolate you from friends or family. Laughing off or ignoring your boundaries or just things you want. If they say ‘All women are crazy. I learned rather early that ‘All my exes are crazy’ is a gigantic red flag. To have ONE crazy ex is possible. ALL crazy, it’s not her fault. If they immediately start making plans for your future together, right out of the gate.